Another day, another Indian CEO. This time the star is from Twitter.
Though I take pride in the fact that an Indian is receiving global fame and accolades, I have not yet tweeted or reposted the news anywhere. It is not because I am salty. It is not because I am a spoilsport. It is not due to envy.
It might be because it all feels a bit… unfair?
Parag Agrawal is from IIT Bombay. He must have reached where he is with much hard work. But hard work alone isn’t the key to success. Is hard work of much use without intellect, without a “beautiful” mind that can come up with path-breaking solutions? You can do all the hard work you like, but if you aren’t smart enough, you are not going to reach the top.
And the truth is – not all of us are blessed with the same level of intellect. It might not even be naturally possible.
“It is thought that around 50 to 80 percent of the variation in general intelligence between people is down to genetics.”
The people who are naturally smart will obviously thrive.
No matter how hard others with lesser intellectual capabilities work, they might never be able to achieve the level of success earned by someone with a higher IQ.
In every phase of our life, appreciation and accolades are for those who are intellectually skilled.
Teachers applaud children who learn the fastest.
Colleges hold tests to admit the smartest.
Companies recruit people who can answer the quickest.
Professional networking sites celebrate those who rise the swiftest.
How often have we seen star students struggle with a math problem, receive terrible grades, not able to understand concepts? They have it easy intellectually compared to others who are not as gifted. Combine brains with hard work – you have got a lethal combo. The CEO material.
Where does that leave the weak? All through life, they might get reprimanded, insulted, mocked for being “below average.” By teachers, colleagues, friends, family. They might never get appreciation. They might never feel valued.
The ones who try so hard to learn tough theories but even after several tries might not master them.
The ones who hope their hard work would compensate for their lack of groundbreaking ideas, innovations, and solutions, in every phase of life. Only to realize, it is not enough.
Here’s to you for trying. And for surviving in this world that only acknowledges and appreciates the rank holders, the quick thinkers, and the naturally gifted.
I say demotivating because my last two performance reviews were negative. I might keep repeating “demotivating” throughout the article because that is how I feel right now.
So demotivated, dazed, confused, furious.
All because of one manager.
Somehow he has made up his mind to never encourage anyone. The only positive word I have ever seen come out of his mouth is “Good.” But he is ever ready to nullify that with 100 negatives.
The worrying part is many in my company feel that way.
2020 was the year I was most proud of myself. I learned things on my own. I built things from scratch. Got everything up and going with minimal errors after several hours of overtime. The least I expected was an “I appreciate your hard work.” An acknowledgement of what I have done.
But nothing came.
Don’t be that manager.
I am at my productive best when I am reporting to a good manager. I am at my worst when the manager is negative. This is true for many. We want to do our best, help the company reach the top when our work is valued.
Don’t get me wrong. I love constructive feedback. But not feedback that is laced only with negatives.
If you are a performance reviewer, here are some “How not to be a demotivating boss” tips:
Start the conversation in a light tone. A “Hi, how are you?” at the start never killed anyone. It gives the employee some time to breathe and relax. Remember, most employees get into a performance review with extreme anxiety. Help them out by being courteous and kind.
Start with the positives. And by positives, I do not mean just saying a single “Good.” Be descriptive. Tell them what you liked about their work. Use the same number of sentences that you would use while giving constructive criticism. 3 full sentences describing the negatives? Follow it up with 3 honest sentences about their positives. Balance it out.
Do not make the employee feel like they have done nothing for the company.
Ease into the negatives. Give some time for the employee to respond or tell you what’s on their mind. Don’t ramble non-stop. The moment you start the negatives is when you need to be the kindest. Frame negatives in a nice way, then stop and take a step back, wait for them to respond, ask if they have to anything to say. Be open-minded to listening to them.
You look around and you see many employees dissatisfied with their managers. Why is that? Because there is a huge communication gap. Any thoughts and reviews are left for the last moment i.e. during the performance review. Some companies like Microsoft, Accenture, Adobe and Deloitte have done away with annual performance reviews because of this reason alone.
The best way to give feedback is right after a task is completed. This helps them change their course if need be. Don’t wait till annual performance reviews – to throw unpleasant surprises.
I got a raise and a bonus. So it was not all bad. But all it takes is one person’s words to ruin the high you feel, right? Is that the price you pay for a salary?
By the end of it all, I told him “That was very demotivating.” Probably it was the first time he heard it from someone. Most employees prefer to ignore such bosses. My retort was followed by a one-minute silence. Of all the things I said this year, I am most proud of this one dialogue.
My manager then went on to give several excuses on how the intention was not to demotivate but to give feedback.
But feedback should be a mix of good and bad. Backed up with encouraging words on how you believe the employee can do what’s been suggested. If it is not, it is not feedback, it is being demotivational. As simple as that.
So I would like to say kudos to me for surviving yet another performance review with a demotivating manager. I expect more to come. And I plan to survive them all. By ranting here, and to my friends, and family, and anyone who would listen.
The day my boss says something nice, I will let you know. Stay tuned?
Leaving the company doesn’t make sense because as far as I know most of the people around have terrible bosses. I rather stick to one familiar demotivating one that becomes overbearing during performance review time rather than explore new ones.
If you are feeling demotivated too, rant! To someone.
That is what my colleagues and I do anyway.
One day, hopefully, all managers will learn how to give feedback constructively. Till then, the corporate servants will have to time and again, feel the extreme disappointment of not feeling valued by that one manager, who simply doesn’t know how to give a good performance review.
And I also hope one day we start earning enough passive income from our websites, investments and, other sources. So that we can run far away from everything that is, you guessed it, demotivational! Every corporate slave’s secret dream.
How is Googling a skill? Anyone can search on Google, right?
Yes, but not everyone does. Why? Because most people do not like to research or read.
In the tech industry, many of the answers are easily available online. Just a search away. It is very rare that you are the first one to face an issue. For a lot of coders, Stack Overflow is like a second home.
Whichever industry you are in currently, Googling is a good skill to have. It is right there, all the details, 24×7, for free. If you are able to research and find out an answer on Google for most of your problems, then in my opinion, that IS a skill. To learn more, to be self-reliant, without being overly dependent on others, is a skill.
Even if you get help from someone, you should STILL Google about it to learn more. Most people are too busy to get into in-depth teaching. They will just touch the topic at a high-level. I always make it a point to do some Googling when someone offers me a solution. It has helped me a lot in building on my base knowledge.
Why Do So Many People Dislike Googling?
People are hesitant to Google for an answer even if it is much easier than waiting for an answer from someone.
We are all naturally lazy (including yours truly). We just want all the answers to come to us without effort. We like to be spoon-fed without lifting a finger (even if it is for a search engine that automatically does the rest of the work for you). But growth happens (as cliché as the next line might sound) – “outside our comfort zone.”
I realized many people are bad at Googling when I posted snippets of some random articles on my Instagram story (with the title, website name et all), and my friends still asked me for the link instead of searching on Google using the article name. Mind you, to provide them the article link, I had to go through the exact same steps – search using the article name on Google, copy the URL and paste it on our chat. I did not have the link stored anywhere for easy access.
It continues even today.
Even after explaining to them how to search on Google.
I am not a passive aggressive type, so I find it difficult to use the infamous “sure, let me Google that for you” when someone asks me something that can be easily Googled.
Some Neat Googling Tips & Tricks
Most of the time, we can get what we want by just entering the search query on Google.
But what if we want something extra?
Well, for the curious cats, here are some cool Google search tips and tricks you can use to get a desired result.
My most favourite.
Use double quotes if you want the exact phrase in the same order to appear in your search results.
For example, “I want to live in New York” will give results where the phrase appears in the exact same order.
Remove the quotes, and you will have the keywords scattered all over the article, and not exactly in the same order.
Using double quotes is also a great way to search for articles using just their titles.
In the example below, I want to search for posts that have mentioned “I want to live in new york” in the exact same order.
Defines a word and also includes an audio clipping on how to pronounce it correctly.
Use Define: followed by the word.
Searches for results on a specific site.
Use Search: followed by the website URL and search query.
In the example below, I want to search all recipes for apple pie on YouTube.
Use the * asterisk symbol to let Google do the guessing work. This allows you to see the most popular search phrases that match a part of your query.
Insert * wherever you want Google to add in the most popular search words/phrases. In the example below, I have used how to * money, so it will consider popular search phrases like how to make money, how to earn money etc.
If you find a website you really like, and wish to see similar ones, use Related: followed by the URL of the website you liked.
In the example below, I want websites similar to Udemy that offers courses online.
This is a great way to include synonyms.
Use ~ before the word that requires synonyms.
If you wish to see search results only related to a specific location use location: after the search phrase.
In case you are looking for content in a particular format, use filetype: followed by the type of file (example: pdf).
Exclude something from search results by using dash –.
For example, let us consider the example below, when you type -money, this means you want Google to exclude the word “money” from the search results. I have additionally added another exclusion, that is the website YouTube.com.